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Lessons from a Floating Forest: Roots and Change

Nearly one hundred trees crossed a lake without ceasing to be a forest.

That sentence sounds like the beginning of a fable, but it happened on Williston Lake in British Columbia. A densely wooded island—roughly 500 feet long and 250 feet wide—appeared where no island was marked on any map. Then it vanished. Days later, it surfaced nearly twenty miles away.

According to reporting from The Guardian, the mass likely formed over years as plants and trees grew through layers of woody debris along the shoreline. Their roots became intertwined. When unusually high water lifted the whole thing loose, the island didn’t immediately fall apart. It moved as a community.

The trees were still rooted. They just weren’t stationary.

A densely wooded floating island carrying mature trees across a broad northern lake beneath an overcast sky.
Nearly one hundred trees crossed a lake without ceasing to be a forest.

I think we confuse those two ideas more often than we realize, especially in small towns. We talk about being rooted as though it means staying in the same job, the same role, the same relationship, or the same patch of ground forever. Remaining becomes proof of character. Leaving begins to resemble betrayal.

I’m guilty of this notion. One of my favorite things to tell people is, “My family has been scattered up and down Highway 22 for over two hundred years.”

But roots have more than one purpose. Some anchor a tree to the soil. Others hold soil together. Sometimes they do both. On that island, the same roots that once attached the trees to a shoreline became the thing that allowed an entire living world to survive after the shoreline let go.

That distinction matters to me.

I was shaped by Dardanelle, by Carden Bottoms, by family stories, church language, hometown traditions, and the kind of people who believe showing up matters even when nobody applauds it. None of that disappears if my life changes shape. I can leave a position without abandoning the people who taught me how to work. I can enter a new chapter without pretending the earlier chapters were wasted.

Gratitude for where you have been does not require a lifetime contract with who you have been there with.

Intertwined tree roots binding soil, moss, and young plants together at the edge of moving water.
Roots can do more than anchor us. They can hold a world together.

Still, movement is not painless. The island on Williston Lake is not gliding across the water like some peaceful little vacation spot. Its edges are thin and shaky. Mature trees sway in the chop. It is exposed to wind, current, and forces it did not choose. Nobody knows exactly where it will settle or whether it will remain intact.

That sounds more like change as I know it.

We like to tell stories about brave departures after we already know they worked out. From the safe side of the outcome, every hard choice looks like courage. In the middle of it, movement often feels like instability. It can make a person question his judgment, his loyalty, and even his identity. The old ground may have been limiting, but at least it was ground.

Fatherhood has taught me another version of this. We spend years trying to give our children roots, knowing that healthy roots are supposed to help them grow beyond us. The goal is not to make them stationary. It’s to give them something portable: a work ethic, a faith, a family story, a way of treating people, and a clear path home. A child can move forward without leaving the family behind because the family has already traveled inside him.

Towns can travel that way too. Dardanelle goes with me in the phrases I use, the stories I tell, the way I measure a person, and the instinct to notice who showed up when things got hard. Carden Bottoms is not only a location on a map. It is a memory carried inside of many people.

A father and three children walking together along a rural Arkansas levee road at sunrise.
What matters can travel with us.

Faith, at its best, understands this. It does not always promise that the shoreline will remain beneath us. Sometimes it asks us to trust that what has been formed in us can survive a change in geography, title, season, or circumstance. The destination may be uncertain without the movement being wrong.

Maybe being rooted has less to do with refusing to move and more to do with knowing what must move with you. Your values. Your people. Your stories. Your faith. The pieces that keep you recognizable when the landscape changes.

Some roots hold you to a place. Others hold you together while you move.

Returning Is Not the Same as Going Back

Seconds before Céline Dion sang the first note of her first full concert in six years, the stage probably looked much like it always had. Lights. Musicians. A waiting crowd. A microphone in the place where a microphone belongs.

But six years were standing beside her.

Illness had interrupted the life she knew. The return required years of physical and vocal work, and the road was longer and rougher than she expected. When she finally began, she became so emotional that the audience had to help carry the opening song.

That’s the part the word “comeback” usually leaves out.

A singer stands beneath a spotlight in the silent moment before beginning a return concert.

Comeback is a clean word. It makes absence sound like an intermission. It suggests someone stepped away, handled a problem, and returned to the same stage as the same person, ready to pick up exactly where she left off.

Real life is seldom that tidy.

Illness changes the person inside the body. Grief changes the person who walks back into the house. Divorce changes the person who tries to trust again. Parenthood changes the person who returns to ambitions he once imagined pursuing without interruption.

Even good change has a cost. We don’t pass through six years—or six months, or one terrible week—and remain untouched.

For a long time, I thought rebuilding meant restoring. I imagined there was an earlier version of my life sitting somewhere intact, waiting for me to find the right road back to it. If I could recover the right habits, confidence, relationships, or sense of direction, perhaps everything would feel familiar again.

But rebuilding is not restoration when the original materials have changed.

A middle-aged Arkansas writer returns to an old manuscript at a desk shaped by years of family life and change.

When I returned to writing seriously, I was not retrieving some untouched version of myself who had merely been waiting for an available afternoon. I brought the years with me: work, fatherhood, disappointment, grief, mistakes, and questions I could not have written honestly before I had lived them.

Some of those experiences reduced me. They took confidence, energy, and certainty. I would not insult anyone’s pain by pretending every loss secretly arrives as a gift. Some things hurt because they are hard, and some absences remain absences.

Still, reduced capacity does not automatically mean a lesser life.

Sometimes the person who returns is better than the one who left—not because the suffering was good, but because he learned to stop wasting what is. He may be slower but more patient. Less certain but more honest. Less impressed by appearances and more grateful for ordinary days. He may finally know which promises deserve his strength and which expectations never did.

That is a better version, even if the measurements we usually celebrate cannot detect it.

The hard part is allowing the new person to build a life he can actually inhabit. We can exhaust ourselves trying to perform at an old pace, recreate an old relationship, recover an old identity, or prove the interruption did not change us. Sometimes healing begins when we quit treating change as evidence of failure.

A man enters a familiar room again, carrying the evidence of the life that changed him.

Returning may mean singing differently. Working differently. Parenting differently. Praying differently. It may require boundaries the former version of us never needed, gratitude he never understood, and the humility to accept help when the first note will not come.

A return is still worth celebrating. But not because it erased the years away.

It is worth celebrating because the person who lived through them stood in the light as he was—changed, grateful, uncertain, and willing to begin again.

You can return to the stage, the work, the faith, or the relationship—but you cannot return as the person who left.

Sometimes that is not the tragedy. It is the gift.

The Power of Asking the Right Questions

Two people can stand in the same kitchen, speak plain English, and understand almost none of each other.

One says, “Fine.”

The other hears, “The problem is settled.”

The first person may have meant, “I’m tired,” “I don’t feel safe explaining this,” or “You have already decided.” Both people know what fine means. Neither one knows what just happened.

The words were translated correctly.

The person was missed.

Two people stand apart in the same kitchen after their words fail to reach each other.

An email from ChatGPT recently promoted the ability to translate text, voices, and photographs, then use follow-up questions so the answer fits the moment. That is remarkable technology. But some of the most consequential translation failures happen between people who share a language, a workplace, a home, or even a last name.

The dictionary is nearly useless with certain sentences.

A child says, “I don’t care.” That may be indifference. It may also be fear posing as indifference because trying and failing would hurt more than pretending the thing never mattered.

As a father, I have not always heard the difference.

Sometimes I’ve answered the sentence instead of the child. I heard attitude and responded with correction. I heard laziness and gave a speech about effort. Maybe the correction was needed. Maybe the speech was true. But truth delivered to the wrong meaning still misses its target.

The better response is often a second question:

“When you say you don’t care, what do you mean?”

A father sits beside his teenage son, leaving enough room for the second answer to arrive.

Leadership has its own false translations.

An employee says, “I understand.” A manager may hear agreement, commitment, and a clear next step. The employee may only mean, “I understand that you are finished listening.”

That’s why it isn’t enough to ask whether someone understands. Ask what they believe the next step is. Ask what part still feels unclear. Inspecting what you expect is not only about numbers in a CRM. Sometimes it means checking whether the same conversation happened on both sides of the desk.

Salespeople learn this lesson every day—or they should.

“I need to think about it” can mean price. It can mean trust. It can mean embarrassment about money, fear of making a mistake, or a polite no. A bad salesperson translates the phrase into an objection to defeat. A better one asks, “What part would you like to think through?”

Not to trap the customer. To stop guessing.

A dealership manager sets his work aside and listens carefully to what an employee is actually trying to say.

Relationships are full of words that carry more than their definition. Later can be a promise or an escape. Respect can mean obedience to one person and consideration to another. Effort can mean intention, visible action, consistency, or sacrifice. I’m good can mean exactly that—or it can mean, “I don’t know how to ask you to stay.”

The danger here is mind-reading.

We should not treat every simple answer as a code to crack. Sometimes “fine” means fine. “No” still means no. Curiosity does not give us permission to replace another person’s words with the story we prefer.

The distinction is simple: mind-reading assigns a hidden meaning. Curiosity asks whether there is more meaning to hear.

I’ve been guilty of translating people into versions that were easier to manage. The child became an attitude problem. The employee became resistant. The customer became an objection. The person I loved became unreasonable.

Those translations saved time.

They also cost connection.

The second question is rarely efficient. It may extend the meeting, slow the sale, complicate the discipline, or reopen the conversation you hoped “fine” had ended. But people are not sentences to process. Listening is not finished when every word has been recognized.

A dictionary can tell you what the words mean. Real listening begins when you ask what the person meant.

Source: OpenAI Help Center, “ChatGPT Capabilities Overview”.

How Small Time Blocks Can Create Big Changes

Two men live almost the same week.

Both wake up to an alarm, put on work clothes, answer messages before breakfast, get children where they need to go, and spend the day solving problems that didn’t exist when they left home. Both stop for groceries, help with homework, load the dishwasher, and collapse into bed carrying tomorrow in their heads.

If you watched their 112 waking hours from a distance, you might have trouble telling them apart.

But several times a week, after the house settles or before it wakes, one of them opens a document and writes. The other waits for a different season of life—one with fewer demands, more energy, and a clean stretch of time that nobody else needs.

Months later, one man has a manuscript. The other still has a reason.

A split view of two similar family evenings, with a father writing at the kitchen table on one side and the table unused on the other.
Most of the week can look exactly the same. The difference is the hour one person protects.

In a recent 3-2-1 newsletter, James Clear shared an observation from writer and illustrator Tim Urban. Someone who writes three hours a day, five days a week, can have a book after forty weeks. The prolific writer and the person who never writes may spend six-sevenths of their waking lives almost identically. The life-changing difference is the fraction one of them defended.

We tend to imagine people who finish things as a different species. The writer wakes up inspired, lives in a quiet house, and spends whole days arranging beautiful sentences while coffee steams beside a sunlit window. That picture is convenient. If writing requires a monastery, then the rest of us are excused.

Most callings do not need your entire life. They need a part of it that the rest of your life is not allowed to take.

I wrote A Nobody’s Guide to Self-Help while managing a dealership and raising three children. That sentence makes the process sound much cleaner than it was. There was no cabin, no sabbatical, and very little evidence of genius. Some sessions produced pages I later cut. Some were spent repairing a paragraph that still wasn’t very good when I went to bed. Other times, I reread what I had written, changed three words, and wondered whether that counted.

It counted.

A tired father writing beside a laptop, cold coffee, work keys, and a child’s drawing late at night.
The sessions that build a book rarely feel important while they are happening.

The book was built during sessions that rarely felt important while they were happening. A child needed something. Work followed me home. My attention arrived late and left early. I didn’t usually feel like an author. I felt like a tired man trying to move one sentence a little closer to the truth.

This isn’t a victory lap. Finishing a book didn’t turn me into a model of discipline. If anything, it exposed how many other things I have postponed while waiting for the right mood or the right version of my life. We all have a small graveyard of intentions labeled “when things settle down.”

Things rarely settle down. They just change what they are loud about.

Fifteen hours a week isn’t easy when work is demanding and children are growing up in real time. And quantity does not guarantee quality. Consistency cannot replace judgment, revision, or honesty. It simply gives those things something to work on. Zero produces nothing to revise.

We often say we don’t have time when we mean we do not have time that arrives preapproved—free of guilt, interruption, or sacrifice. Protected time seldom presents itself. It has to be claimed from a phone, a television, another chore, or the endless appetite of other people’s urgency.

The goal isn’t to become consumed by the work. It’s to stop requiring the work to consume you before you take it seriously.

A finished manuscript resting among work keys and children’s school items on a kitchen table at sunrise.
A small, defended part of the week can eventually leave evidence.

At the end of one week, the protected fraction may look almost meaningless: a few hundred words, a rough page, one idea you aren’t sure you can use. At the end of forty weeks, it may be the only part of the year you can hold in your hands.

A life doesn’t always change because you found more time. Sometimes it changes because you stopped letting one small piece of it belong to everything else.

Don’t Let Your Child’s Dream Become Somebody Else’s Business Model

Eighty dollars once bought a season.

Eight thousand dollars now buys a year.

That was the contrast in a Morning Brew story about youth sports: one Florida parent remembered paying $80 for recreational sports during her childhood. She now spends about $8,000 each year on club baseball for her 12-year-old son.

Those aren’t identical experiences, of course. Recreational ball and club ball (or travel ball, round these parts) promise different things. That difference is where the business model lives.

Parents watch children play baseball beneath the lights of a modest small-town Arkansas ballfield.

I understand the parent’s side of it.

I am a father. I have watched my children play sports, and I know the desire to give them every honest chance. If one of them possesses real ability and the willingness to work, I don’t want money, geography, or my own hesitation to become the reason a door closes.

I also work in sales and marketing, so I know what happens when fear can be connected to a purchase.

Youth sports has found one of the most powerful fears a parent carries: What if my child could have become something, and I was the one who said no?

Once that fear takes hold, we are no longer buying a tournament, a private lesson, or another uniform. We’re buying protection from future blame. The next level always seems to sit behind another registration fee, another hotel weekend, another instructor, or another facility.

The Aspen Institute found that family spending on a child’s primary sport rose 46 percent from 2019 to 2024. Its researchers estimate that parents now spend more than $40 billion each year on youth sports. That does not include everything schools, municipalities, facilities, and sponsors spend around them.

There is too much money involved for parental anxiety to remain an accidental byproduct.

A parent watches a child train inside an expensive elite youth-sports facility filled with commercial signals.

This isn’t an argument against travel teams, serious coaching, or private instruction. Some children want the harder competition. Some coaches change lives. Good training can sharpen talent, build discipline, and introduce a child to opportunities that a small town can’t provide on its own.

The question is not whether the expensive option is always bad.

The question is who still owns the dream.

Is it the child who wants to play? Is it the parent who has invested enough money to need the sacrifice to mean something? Or is it the company promising that one more purchase will keep the future open?

The answer can change quietly.

A child begins with a glove, a ball, and the pleasure of getting better. Then adults add rankings, exposure, specialized training, highlight videos, travel calendars, and the language of scholarships. Eventually, a ten-year-old can feel responsible for producing a return on an investment he never asked anyone to make.

That’s too much weight for a game to carry.

Parents need to be honest about more than the bank account. We should notice whether our child still talks about playing or only about performing. We should ask whether the extra work belongs to his ambition or our anxiety. We should be willing to hear that a dream has changed without treating every dollar already spent as a contract he or she must keep honoring.

A father and child play catch alone on a simple local baseball field at sunset.

Supporting a dream sometimes costs real money. It also requires restraint. Every possible future cannot be purchased, and trying to buy them all can take something from the life the child is living now—rest, friendships, family time, freedom to try another sport, or the right to discover that this was something he loved but not something he wanted to become.

Aspiration is not the enemy. Neither is business. But when an industry profits from convincing parents that ordinary participation is failure, somebody has to protect the child from becoming the product.

A father’s job is not to purchase every possible future; it’s to keep the present game from being taken away from the child.

Sources: Morning Brew: “Youth Sports Brew”; Aspen Institute Project Play: Family spending rises 46%; Aspen Institute Project Play: Private equity and youth sports

Thursday Night Football and Shipping Containers

Months before the Los Angeles Rams crossed the Pacific, a shipping container was already making the trip.

Inside were game-day drinks, supplements, food, and supplies. The kind of things nobody in the stands would notice unless they are missing.

The NFL’s first regular-season game in Australia will be played under the lights at the Melbourne Cricket Ground. That is the part made for television: the uniforms, the crowd, the opening kick, and the announcer reminding us how far everybody traveled.

The less glamorous part began 218 days earlier.

The Rams had to move roughly 25,000 pounds of equipment in 90 trunks. Every trunk needed a manifest listing what was inside, what it was worth, and where it came from. Australian biosecurity rules meant the cleats had to arrive free of dirt, seeds, and grass. Somewhere, while the players prepared to play football, an equipment manager was scraping yesterday’s practice field from the bottom of somebody else’s shoes.

A shipping container carrying game-day supplies crosses the Pacific months before kickoff.

That may be the most honest picture of leadership I have seen in a while.

We like the visible moment. We celebrate the touchdown, the sale, the finished book, the family picture, and the number at the bottom of the report. We rarely ask who made sure the right cord, form, meal, key, or backup plan was in the room when the moment arrived.

The game isn’t won in the shipping container. The players still have to play. Preparation can’t guarantee an outcome.

But a great many things can be lost there.

An equipment manager removes every trace of dirt and grass before the cleats can clear customs.

At a dealership, the customer sees the delivery photo. He sees the clean vehicle, the keys in his hand, and the smile that gets posted online. He doesn’t see the inventory checks, the trade appraisal, the lender calls, the paperwork corrections, the detail department, the fuel, the insurance verification, or the person who caught the missing signature before it became tomorrow’s problem.

When those pieces work, the final moment looks easy. That’s the strange reward of good preparation: it often removes the evidence that it was necessary.

Leadership is not only performing well when the pressure arrives. It’s reducing the number of emergencies everyone else will have to survive. Pressure may reveal preparation, but it rarely replaces it.

Before the doors open, a dealership manager prepares the paperwork, keys, and vehicle behind the delivery photo.

Fatherhood contains the same invisible work. Children see Christmas morning, not the calendar, sacrifice, and quiet worry behind it. They see the uniform ready for practice, not who remembered to wash it. They see that somebody showed up, not the rearranged day that made showing up possible.

That doesn’t mean children owe us applause. Love becomes something uglier when every sacrifice is presented as an invoice. The point is not to make people feel guilty for enjoying the moment. The point is to respect the work required to make good moments dependable.

Writing is no different. A reader sees the finished essay, not the notes carried around, the weak opening deleted, or the paragraph that had to be rebuilt because it sounded better than it was true. The published piece is kickoff. Most of the real contest happened when nobody was watching.

There’s a temptation in responsible lives to resent that invisibility. We want somebody to notice the early morning, the second check, or the problem prevented so completely that it never became a story. Sometimes they will. Often they won’t.

Do the work anyway.

The crowd will remember who caught the pass. The customer will remember the keys. The child will remember the morning. But somewhere before each visible moment was a person nobody applauded—the one who packed what everybody else would need before they knew they needed it.

Source note: Inspired by Morning Brew’s reporting on the Rams’ Australia game and Sports Illustrated’s inside account of the team’s 15,000-mile operation.

Dolly Parton’s Legacy of Books and Empowerment

We tend to talk about legacy as if it is something we build with our own two hands.

A business. A book. A name on a building. Enough money left behind that our children do not have to struggle the way we did. Then somebody leaves behind something larger than anything he could have built himself.

When Dolly Parton died on August 25, I learned something about her that I didn’t know. And it had nothing to do with rhinestones, pearls, and country music. It had everything to do with her father.

Robert Lee Parton could not read. Dolly called him the smartest man she had ever known. She also believed his inability to read kept him from fulfilling many of his dreams.

So she built the Imagination Library in his honor. What began in one Tennessee county grew into a worldwide program that mails a free book every month to more than three million children. Before he died, her father told her it was “probably the most important thing I had ever done.”

Not the songs. Not the awards. Not the money.

The books.

A boy traces a page in an open book while his father's hand rests beside him at a wooden kitchen table.

I think about that because one of my boys has had to learn that difficulty with traditional reading is not the same thing as a lack of intelligence. School can turn one narrow skill into a courtroom exhibit. A hard page starts to feel like evidence. A slow test starts to sound like a verdict.

It is not.

A child can struggle to pull meaning from a page and still understand people, patterns, consequences, machines, humor, or the quiet things happening in a room. Intelligence does not always arrive in the format a classroom finds easiest to grade.

That does not mean reading is unimportant. It means shame is a lousy teacher.

As a father, my job is not to pretend the hill is flat. The hill is real. There will be assignments, forms, instructions, applications, and a thousand other places where the written word matters.

My job is to keep him from believing the hill is the whole world and that he is responsible for crossing it the same way everyone else does.

That may be one of the hardest parts of parenting. We want to give our children confidence, but confidence cannot be built from lies. We cannot tell them everything will be easy. We can tell them that hard is not the same as impossible, and struggle is not the same as stupid.

Dolly’s father could not hand her literacy. He handed her intimate knowledge of what happens when a capable person is locked outside a door. She spent the rest of her life mailing keys.

A father installs a wooden bookshelf in his son's bedroom while the boy waits with a stack of books.

We usually talk about what children inherit in visible terms: our eyes, our temper, our last name, our property, and, if genetics is feeling especially generous, the best of ourselves.

But children inherit our unfinished business too.

Sometimes they inherit the courage we modeled. Sometimes they inherit the wound we could not heal. Sometimes our limitation becomes the raw material they use to build something neither of us could have imagined.

That does not make the limitation good. It does not romanticize the hurt or excuse the world for failing to recognize somebody’s intelligence.

It simply means love can refuse to waste pain.

I don’t have to possess every gift my children will need. I won’t understand every way their minds work. I will not always know the right book, the right teacher, or the right sentence to say when frustration settles over the kitchen table.

But I can keep building shelves.

A father carrying boards and tools walks beside his son carrying a book near a rural roadside library at sunset.

I can protect curiosity while skill catches up. I can separate effort from worth. I can remind a boy that a page is something to work through, not something allowed to define him.

Maybe that is legacy.

Not proving that we had every answer, but making sure our children never confuse the answers we lacked with the limits of who they can become. A father does not have to possess every gift to help awaken it in his children.

The man who could not read helped build a library anyway.

Embracing Failure: Lessons from Ted Williams

I should be more consistent with writing. I don’t usually sit down and think of a particular topic to write about. Most of the time, it just comes to me. Just the other day, I was thinking about “failure.” I realized that many things I write about have failure as a central theme. I don’t consider myself an expert on anything, but if I were to bestow that title on myself in some regard, it would be “Master of Failing.”


To be honest, I’m not even mad about it. It took a while to learn, but once I figured out that failing was an important part of growing, I decided to embrace it. I’m not saying that I have never made the same mistake twice, but I feel like most of my failures are unique, and I use them to fuel growth and development.


I’ve been in the car business for almost 20 years. When you are a professional salesperson, failure is a constant factor. Even the best in the industry don’t sell to every customer they talk to. A GOOD salesperson should expect to close 30%- 35% of the customers they interact with. To put it in perspective, if a baseball player gets a hit one out of every three times he goes to the plate, he’s considered a Hall of Famer. Similarly, if a salesperson closes a sale with one out of every three customers, they’re doing exceptionally well.


That means that the best players in the game’s history fail two out of every three times they have an at-bat.


Today, I’m returning to 1941, when Ted Williams had arguably the best season at the plate in baseball history. He finished the ’41 season with a batting average of .406 with 37 home runs and 120 RBIs. To provide context, .200, the Mendoza line, is considered the low-end threshold for professional ball players. The average batting average of Hall of Famers is .303.


Williams played in 143 games that season and had 456 at-bats. But the breakdown of three particular stretches of that 1941 season interests me the most.


On April 30th, Williams entered the game hitting .462. Over the next four games, he hit .182, dropping his season average to .310.


By June 21st, he had battled his way back up to .415. But he only hit .318 over the next 21 games, dropping that average all the way down to .393.


His average peaked again at .413 during the heat of the pennant race in early September. But a .292 stretch over the next 17 games saw it drop right to the .400 mark near the end of the season. Entering the last day of the year, he was so close to the .400 mark that a bad day at the plate would have kept him from reaching that sacred number.


This is important because even though his season as a whole is considered extraordinary, not every day, or even week, was even considered average. But during those subpar stretches, Ted Williams didn’t panic. He didn’t change up his swing. He didn’t stay down in the dumps and stop coming to work. He showed up every day, stepped inside that chalk-outlined box, and did his job to the best of his abilities. And he let the chips fall where they may.


The most significant lesson I’ve learned about failure is that it’s interwoven into the fabric of success. It’s more about ‘fall, learn, grow’ than ‘pass or fail.’ These three unremarkable stretches of Ted Williams’ historic season wouldn’t impress anyone. But his resilience and determination during those times are just as, if not more, important than his successes.


We get so caught up in results that sometimes we lose focus on the processes. Instead of getting up and walking out of the pit of despair, we let ourselves get so deep that we can’t even climb out. We let our losses define us even though we may be on the cusp of a breakthrough. Our inactivity lets the tide sweep us back to the starting line when riding the wave will get us closer to our destination.


I used to tell kids when they’d ask me a question, “I wish I had it all figured out.” I don’t tell them that anymore because it isn’t true. I’m glad I don’t have it all figured out. My next failure is always right around the corner, and I’m excited to see what revelation it will lead to. I try (emphasis on “try” ) to be consistent and open-minded while keeping a positive attitude. In the words of the great poet Henry Longfellow: “Learn to labor and to wait.”


Show up. Stay the course. Keep your head high. Learn. Don’t quit. Don’t ever quit.